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Are you someone that is still holding on to the past and are struggling to let go?
It’s been said that if you’re not moving forward, then you’re going backwards. It’s time to let go of the past and embrace the future. The past is a great place to visit, but it should not be your home.
A lot of people have a difficult time letting go, including me. They keep things that remind them of their past, they hang on to relationships that they know aren’t healthy for them, and they cling on to the idea that one day their lives will be different.
The thing is though, if you don’t let go now, then you’ll never get what you want in the future. You need to learn how to say goodbye so you can start making plans for the future instead of just living in the past.
In this blog post, I will discuss why you are holding on so tightly to the past and how you can move forward into a better future.
Why do we hold on to things that hurt Us
When we are young, we learn to be afraid of change. We cling to the pain that makes us feel comfortable. According to https://www.psychologytoday.com, the brain handles negative and positive information differently. Negative experiences require more thinking and, thus, are processed more thoroughly. This causes our brains to become better at remembering adverse events.
Changes in life can seem scary, and it is easier to hang on to what you know. The future, on the other hand, may be far better than what we currently know.
Sometimes we hold on to pain because it reminds us of what we have been through. We might feel that we don’t deserve anything better than what we have had.
If you continue to live your life in the past, without looking forward to a more positive future, then you will never achieve happiness.
Why holding on to the Past is Bad
Holding on to the past can cause you to miss out on great opportunities. You will see everything in your life through the lens of what has already happened and may never reach for anything more than that.
If you are unhappy with where or who you are, then it is time to let go of the past and move on. It can be scary but also worth every moment if we allow ourselves to experience something beyond our comfort zone.
If you keep reliving the past, it keeps your mindset negative. You have to let go of the past to allow yourself to move on.
If holding on is keeping you from taking chances or reaching for things that make you happy, then it may be time to let go and start over!
If holding onto the past has caused negative effects in your life, such as depression or anxiety, perhaps letting go would help with changing your mood around. Remember we are not victims but survivors so don’t dwell too much on what happened because this will only cause more issues.
What is holding you back from moving on with your life
It’s holding on to the past. Maybe it was something that happened a long time ago, or maybe you made bad choices in your life and now feel guilty about them.
Whatever the reason may be holding onto the past is not healthy for you mentally, physically, emotionally, or socially so why put up with all this pain? Some other reasons may be:
1. You want to move on but you’re scared
You don’t want to step into the unknown because you are afraid. Maybe you might be holding on to your past not because of love or comfort but out of fear and insecurity with what’s ahead.
2. You are holding on to pain from things out of your control
Sometimes we can’t help but hold on too tight because our brain is telling us it was something we could have done differently – if only!
Holding onto hurt over a single event won’t change anything about that moment unless you let go, otherwise, the situation becomes bigger than it really was.
3. You are afraid of change
Letting go means that you have to stop relying so heavily on what has happened in your life, sometimes we tend to hold onto those negative relationships because they’re all we know or remember.
4. You are trying to be strong for everyone else
I get it. You want to be that strong person for everyone else. No matter what has happened or how you feel, holding on tightly will keep you locked in the past and unable to move forward with your life.
Try not to hold yourself responsible for other people’s feelings!
5. Your life is stuck in a rut and you can’t get out of it
Letting go can feel both liberating and terrifying.
There is a fear of the unknown but you need to remember that holding on will only keep you stuck in place, whereas letting go could take you somewhere even better.
Although closing one chapter may make way for another exciting adventure into the future, there’s still room
6. The thought of being alone terrifies you
You may be clinging to something that is no longer relevant. You might be holding on to a relationship or an opportunity with someone who isn’t around anymore.
It’s keeping you from being happy and progressing in life. Holding on will only cause suffering for yourself as well as others, especially those who care about you.
It would be better if we just let go of the things holding us back from being happy but how do we actually know when to stop holding on?
How can I tell what’s worth holding onto and what isn’t?
Shouldn’t you get rid of anything negative before moving forward with your life?
And finally will letting go hurt me even more than holding on does?
You can hold on without feeling trapped
The past is not holding you hostage! You have control over your life and what happens to it. Acknowledge that holding onto the bad so tightly only hurts yourself.
It’s time to let go of all those negative emotions tied up with a moment, person, or memory in order for you to be able to live happily again.
And remember, holding on too tight can leave lasting damage and scars.
Speak up if you’re continuing to suffer because of your past.
You may have relatives who just want to see you move on with your life without the heartache caused by clinging to something so firmly…you might be surprised at what they have to say.
The past can bring happiness
There is nothing wrong with holding onto good memories from the past because those moments make up some of our most cherished experiences.
We would not want them lost forever just because we have moved on physically or emotionally! The key here is balance ~ don’t cling too tightly nor hold on so loosely to all the negative emotions you are tied to.
How to let go of the past and be happy
Letting go of the past isn’t as easy as it sounds, especially if holding on is what you’re used to doing for so long.
It may seem hard but there are ways how to let go of the past and move forward with your life without holding onto any negativity or regret from the past.
Here are six ways of letting go…
- Practice gratitude instead of dwelling in pain
- Give yourself time and space by being alone
- Journal about your feelings until you feel more at peace which will help ease those negative emotions that keep holding you back every day
- Do not ruminate or dwell over the situation because it won’t change anything except make you feel even worse than ever before!
- Realize why holding onto irrelevant memories isn’t important and realize what is important in your life
- Stop holding onto the past by forgiving those who have wronged you and did not deserve that negative energy from you because holding onto it will only hurt both of you even more!
These are just some ways to let go of the past.
Holding on to pointless memories doesn’t do anything except hold apart what could be an amazing future for yourself and create negativity within your own heart.
Letting go can be quite challenging, and can take time depending on how long this person or situation has been holding you back from being happy again.
I know that the past is something you can’t change, but it doesn’t have to define your future. Let go of old pain and bring yourself happiness by letting go of the past. You deserve to be happy!
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